Afterlife Research and Education Institute, Inc.
  Self-guided Afterlife



Stages in the Training

Stage 1: Conviction

Having the conviction that your loved one is alive and well, living in the next plane of life, may help you connect more easily. If you have much doubt, you may quickly give up on trying to communicate or doubt the source of real messages you receive.


Stage 2: Understanding Afterlife Connections

You must understand the nature of afterlife connections, especially why some people connect easily and others can't connect at all. You also must know without reservation that your loved one is available to communicate; we just have to figure out how we can do it.


Stage 3: Understanding Your Mind

Most people don't understand the nature of experience, memory, imagination, dreams, and afterlife communication. At this stage, you will learn about how these mental phenomena relate to each other.


Stage 4: A Trial Experience with Connecting with the Afterlife

At this stage, I will guide you through an experience that may result in a connection with your loved one. You will go into a relaxed state and allow natural unfoldment to happen without interruption.


Stage 5: Self-guiding Your Afterlife Connection - Listening to A Guided Relaxation

In the final three stages, you will practice taking yourself into a relaxed state, with and without the use of meditation music, to have your own afterlife connection at any time. In this first method, you will listen to a recording guiding you into relaxation to make the connection. The recording includes questions you will ask. You will enter into a dialogue. During the dialogue, you may have a connection with your loved one.

Stage 6: Self-guiding Your Afterlife Connection - Listening to Meditation Music

In this second method, you will listen to meditation music and guide yourself into relaxation to make the connection.

Stage 7: Self-guiding Your Afterlife Connection - Guiding Yourself without Meditation Music

In this final method, you will guide yourself into relaxation to make the connection without listening to meditation music.

Stage 8: Becoming Aware of the Sense of Presence

This stage will help you learn to become sensitive to the presence of a person or pet in spirit.


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In oneself lies the whole world and if you know how to look and learn, the door is there and the key is in your hand. Nobody on earth can give you either the key or the door to open, except yourself.

- Jiddu Krishnamurti


What This Afterlife Connection Procedure Is

The Self-Guided Afterlife Connection procedure is a training program; it is not a one-time meditation you go through. It will teach you how to enter a state of mind in which afterlife connections can and do occur. They happen in 86% of the people who go through the training.

The goal of the training is for you to learn how to enter the state of mind to connect with your loved one at any time, in any place. You won't need the meditation music or guidance provided during the training. When you sense your loved one's presence, you can quiet yourself and have a dialogue with them. When you need to feel they're near or you need help, you can ask them to come to you and you can know their messages for you. You will listen to meditation music and a narration guiding you at first, but by Stage 7 in the training program, you will be able to enter the state of mind by yourself, with no help.

You will establish a new relationship or enhance an existing relationship with your loved one living in the realm next door. Your new relationship will stay strong until you are both again living in the same realm. You will connect often. Some people connect every day. Through the connections, you will live a fuller, richer life, and your loved ones will help you learn during your time in earth school. This is what one person wrote in her journal about her Self-Guided Afterlife Connection experiences:

It is like I am learning soul stuff and what I need to realize as a soul so that I can make the most of my time here. It is like my family on the other side is helping me as much or more then when they were here. It is amazing. It really felt like my sister only much more loving and I feel like I know who she is more then I did when she was here.

The Registration Form

If you have not filled out the form agreeing to the conditions for using the Self-guided Afterlife Connections procedure, you must read this page, click on the link below to go to the registration page, and fill it out the registration form.

If you have already read the information that follows and have filled out the form agreeing to the conditions, just click here to go directly to the page with links to the Self-guided Afterlife Connections procedure. In the future, you can bypass this opening page altogether by putting the address for that page in your "Favorites" file.

Link to the registration page


This Is a Free Training Program

The Self-guided Afterlife Connections procedure is a free training program. You will learn how to be more open to messages from your loved ones now living on another plane of life. As a result, you must go through all the training stages, in the order in which they are presented, to learn the skills.

This Self-guided Afterlife Connections procedure is given freely to humanity.

Validations of the Reality of the Connections

Most experiecers will tell you that what they experienced when they had a connection was unexpected and uplifting. That is a real validation. If the experiencer didn't intend for some event, image, or message to come, then it unfolded from a source outside of them, often their loved one.

However, we also have journal recordings of many sessions in which the experiencer learned things he or she couldn't have known, and they are later validated to be true. You can read about some of them at this link:



Research Report on Results of Using the Procedure

A study of the first 22 people who used the procedure is available. The research report in Acrobat contains excerpts from participants' journals describing their afterlife connections.

Download the report at this link.


Explanations of Guided and Self-guided Afterlife Connections and More Journals

More detailed explanations of Guided Afterlife Connections, performed by state-licensed psychotherapists, and Self-guided Afterlife Connections, used by anyone by who logs onto this website, are available at More journal entries from participants who have had Self-guided Afterlife Connections are also available there.

The Sanctity of the Connections

The focus of AREI activities is always, foremost, on the individual person and the sanctity of the connections with loved ones. You are striving to have an experience that will be uplifting and life-changing for you. We honor the sanctity of that sacred experience. While we do have procedures to follow, we want to emphasize that if you go through the experiences, your connection, growth in understanding your eternal nature, and reduction in your grief are paramount.
What to Expect

Not everyone will be able to make the connection through these methods. You will be able to communicate in some way, but it may not be through mental work. Your loved one will try to connect in other ways if these aren't workable. You might have a session with a mental medium, or you may notice that lights go on and off at times meaningful to you and your loved one, or a song meaningful to you and your loved one may come on the radio at special times. You must learn to accept communication in all forms, without doubts, and thank them for coming to you. Hopefully, the procedure you'll be going through will be one of the ways you can connect.

The procedure isn't simply a one-time experience. It is intended to teach you how to make the connections and enhance your experience by learning to become better at using it. As such, the process of learning to use the procedure is a training program. You will have to be patient with the process and have the conviction that your loved one wants to communicate and is working at it on his or her side of life as strongly as you're working at it on this side. It may take time to get the conditions right to have a meeting of your minds. Be patient.
Psychological Conditions You Must Not Have

As with any other procedure that involves working with the mind, you will have to evaluate whether your mind is healthy enough to open up memories. It's much like the caveat given to people who begin an exercise program. Make sure you're healthy enough to engage in strenuous exercise. In the same way, you must decide you have nothing in your past that might come out while you're opening yourself up to communication.

These are the conditions you must evaluate before going through the procedure:

  1. If you are in counseling or psychiatric treatment for any disorders, you must discuss the procedure with your counselor or psychiatrist who agrees the program will not be harmful to you. If you are in counseling and have not talked over the procedure with your counselor, don't go through the procedure.

  2. Don't go through the procedure if you have psychoses, childhood traumas, history of abuse, or post-traumatic stress disorder that have not been resolved. The procedure is too new for us to know whether it will bring any problems to the surface.

  3. Don't go through the procedure if you had a stressful, abusive, or otherwise unhealthy relationship with the person you want to connect with. If you had any problems that might surface, don't go through this procedure alone. We stongly suggest that you schedule sessions with a trained Guided Afterlife Connections psychotherapist. Those on the other side who come through are often willing and anxious to help in the experiencer's psychotherapy by clarifying things that happened during childhood. But you need to have a state-licensed psychotherapist available to help you when problems surface.

Strong Grief and Negative Emotions

There are also conditions or feelings that won't create problems for you, but may reduce or eliminate your chances of success. Just be aware that you might not be ready, but you may be ready at a later time.

The most limiting conditions are profound grief and negative emotions such as guilt and anger. You will always grieve, but your grief must be at a point at which it isn't so deep you aren't functioning well. It shouldn't still be mixed up with anger, guilt, and other emotions that affected you so strongly in the months right after the passing. You'll know if your grief is too great if you break down often while you're trying to go through the procedure. For some people, it likely will take at least a year after the passing to engage in these experiences.

However, you decide whether you're able to spend time focusing on your loved one and reliving memories. If that causes such grief that you are really disturbed after the session, wait until your grief has stabilized.
When to Stop the Procedure

You decide whether your grief is stabilized enough that you can go through the procedure. During the procedure, if they are extremely disturbing for you or give you more grief after a session, stop. You're not ready yet.

Whether you stop the process when you feel grief depends on your mental condition. If you have feelings of suicide or the grief leads you into a long-term depression or the grief brings up images of trauma or other disturbing images, then stop. You must take care of those feelings before going on. That means you need to be working with a psychotherapist. This procedure is not good if it leads you into psychological difficulties, and we can't be responsible for anything that happens to you.

Your donation will make more connections possible

Donations are the only support we receive that makes it possible for the Afterlife Research and Education Institute to create procedures such as the Self-guided Afterlife Connection procedure. If you found it to be of help to you, your donation will enable us to continue to develop new, more powerful ways people can connect with loved ones. All Center activities rely on donations.

AREI is a not-for-profit corporation in the State of Illinois certified as a 501(c)(3) charitable organization by the IRS. Donations are tax deductible. Send donations to the AREI, 23 Payne Place, Normal, IL 61761, or click on the button below to use PayPal or a credit card.



A Video with a Story that Illustrates What You Will Experience

This video was produced by MKW Productions. We had nothing to do with it. But it is very much in line with what you will experience. You don't have to watch it to go through the training. It just might be uplifting and informative for you. It portrays much of what you will experience.

MKW Productions: Aging Imaginations



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